Resolve Differences
Compatible is defined as able to exist or act together harmoniously. What we do, not who we are! Concentrate on what joins you with another person, not on what separates you. Expect differences. Plan for ways to use your differences to expand your thinking and increase your choices. Use your differences to build strong workable partnerships with another person. Focus on your strengths, minimize your weaknesses.
Advocates/Friends, Not Enemies
Agree to disagree and always be in each others corner. Not blaming, but accepting and working toward understanding. The greatest obstacles to compatibility are Blame and Defend. Believing there is always a right and wrong, and of course, you are right and he/she is wrong. Let go of fears and defenses. Develop a healthy curiosity. What’s going on for me now? What can I learn about you?
Some useful ground rules:
NEVER COMPARE
NEVER CONDEMN
NEVER COMMAND
NEVER CONDESCEND
NEVER CONTRADICT
NEVER CONFUSE (stick with the issue)
