Menu
  • Home
  • About
    • About Elva Anson
    • Speaking Engagements
    • Close
  • Our Books
    • Wondering Around God
    • Becoming Soul Mates
    • How to Get Kids to Help at Home
    • Teddy: Out of the Hidden Valley
    • The 3rd Party
    • Close
  • Elva’s Blogs
    • Parenting – Most people don’t become parents blessed with parenting skills. Parenting skills must be learned.
    • Soul Mates – Focus on yourself and what you can learn and do to create the relationship you desire. Get help here!
    • Get Aways – Get-Aways provide the freedom and opportunity to know each other better.
    • Wondering Around God – How do you relate to Elva’s fascinating story? Where are you in life and how much importance do you give to being open to nurturing your spiritual side? Hopefully, this blog will encourage sharing.
    • Close

Don’t Expect What You Cannot Get

Posted by Elva 
· March 26, 2008 

Two very different people decide to spend their lives together. Now they must agree on many things. They no longer can call all of the shots or be in charge of every decision. The big question: How can I be who I am and still be connected to you?

Sometimes one partner tries to be in charge. He/she pushes the other one to see things the way he/she sees them, because his/her way is the “right” way. Maybe the other person cannot change his position without losing self. Learn to negotiate and to seek to understand.

Use words like: Tell me more about the way you see it. I hear you saying……..is that right? What are the feelings? Any more thoughts that I need to consider? How can we make a decision in which we can both get some of what we want?

Most things are not all right or all wrong. They fall somewhere in between. You do not want to change each other. You want to make your differences bring you a fuller richer life.

Categories : Soul Mates
Previous Post →
← Next Post

Your Shopping Cart

Your Cart is Empty

7.75% CA Sales tax will be added to the Subtotal at checkout, after you have entered your credit card info or logged into your PayPal account.

Speaking Engagements

Elva Anson is available to speak at your next event!

She can talk on wide range of topics including relationships, communications, parenting and many others. Click here to see a complete list.


Please enter the security code:
security code
Security Code:
Please enter the captcha verification code.

Submit
Family First Books
Copyright © 2023 All Rights Reserved