“Love,” says Dr. Fromm, “is the only satisfactory answer to the problems of human existence.” Yet many people do not learn to love with maturity , self-knowledge, and courage. Learning to love requires intentional openness, genuine insight and understanding. You must be willing to practice what you learn, to open yourself to another human being. That takes willingness to be vulnerable and tough.
For example, if your partner tries to tell you that your sarcasm is hurtful, you don’t tell her she just isn’t a good sport and that you were only joking. Instead, you thank her for telling you and you try to be direct instead of using sarcasm. Listen instead of always being right.