What a wealth of good books on relationship wait for anyone needing help. Today I will be writing about Dr. Jane Greer’s new book, “What About Me?” Dr. Greer says there are two primary areas of selfishness–sexual and emotional. She divides the selfishness scale into four categories–martyr, giver, taker, controller. She describes martyrs as completely selfless with the dominant emotion: fear. Givers are somewhat selfless. Dominant emotion: guilt. Takers expect to be given to and taken care of. Dominant emotion: disappointment. Controllers are completely selfish. Dominant emotion: anger.
Dr. Greer’s book includes a quiz the reader can take to determine where on the continuum you fall. Part one of the book describes the role selfishness plays in relationships. Part two gives advice on how to move from me to we in healthy ways. Look for more about Dr. Greer’s book on this blog soon.