My husband has a tendency to leave drawers, doors and jam jars open. At first that irritated me and I asked him to please try to remember to close them. He tries to remember but I think he was born with the opening reflex and the closing reflex is missing. It still irritates me, but I realize it is not a conscious thing with him. On a scale of 1-10 in importance it is right at the bottom so I have learned to let it go. It’s not that hard to close drawers myself. We even sometimes joke about it. I have to admit that sometimes I close things loudly.
When something Everett does or doesn’t do irritates me, I ask myself two questions, “How important is it?” and “If I say something, will he do it differently?” Usually the answers are “not important” and “no”. So I let it go. I also remind myself that I probably do a lot of little things that irritate him and he likes me anyway.