Someone asked why I use the word “relationship” instead of the word “relationships”.
The dictionary lists the word relationship as a noun and defines it as “connection or connected to somebody”. The ultimate relationship is marriage. Noted family therapist, Carl Whitaker, said, “The greatest ordeal in life is marriage. It is the central focus for enlightenment and the natural therapeutic process in the culture.”
Becoming soul mates is something you must consciously learn to do.
It requires letting go of defenses and being willing to learn and grow. Couples who blame and defend simply cannot become soul mates. Fron the time we learn to walk and talk we defend ourselves to survive. Letting go can make you scared and vulnerable. It does not come naturally. That is what makes relationship difficult.