Nine out of ten men believe intimacy means sex. Interestingly, when women complain about lack of intimacy, men don’t understand what they want. For intimacy to occur, there must be interest, respect, warmth, acceptance and trust. It involves understanding, talking, and listening. It requires an awareness of being loved and feeling loving.
The dictionary definition of intimacy: “intrinsic, innermost…marked by very close association, contact, or familiarity, marked by warm friendship, suggesting informal warmth or privacy, of a very personal private nature.” Is it any wonder relationship is difficult for everyone? The huge differences in perceptions of what love is and how to show it, lead to hurt feelings, misunderstandings, and the often spoken comment, “If you really loved me, you would……..” We can’t even agree on what intimacy is.
The challenge to those looking for a soul mate relationship is to accept the fact you must learn from your partner. That means spending time together sharing your stories, beliefs, and perceptions. What are your dreams, passions and concerns? You can open my book, “Becoming Soul Mates” at almost any two pages and find something to talk about. Little by little you will create the intimacy that leads to becoming soul mates.
