In Susan Osborn’a book, “The System Made Me Do It!”, she talks about how to change systems. Some of her advice can be applied to creating good relationship:
“Honor different ways of looking at the world. Eliminate unnecessary conflicts by building structures based on harmony. Convene meetings to practice using tools for conflict management. Confront differences, not each other. Engage in exercises to reduce defensive behavior. Focus on common ground rather than on who is right and wrong.”
Ah! If only we had learned these principles as children growing up, there would be fewer divorces and more soul mate relationships.