Telling each other your stories sets the stage for understanding. I love sharing my stories with Everett and I love having him share his stories with me. We now have many stories together. I don’t always enjoy hearing him tell our stories, because we tell stories differently. Ev embellishes and doesn’t consider details like numbers important. When we were younger, I felt a need to set him straight. I haven’t done that for many years. When he tells our stories, it becomes his story. When I tell our stories, it is my story. Of course, they are different, because we experience things differently.
Some of Ev’s stories I have heard many times. I don’t mind. Stories he tells over and over tell me what is most important to him and what experiences have impacted his life. They help me understand why he thinks and feels what he does. Understanding and acceptance are the key to becoming soul mates.